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The Distinction between Pain & Suffering ('I hear that!')With some authors you cannot help but be inspired and moved into consciousness, today I share with you a piece Audre Geraldine Lorde's detinction between pain and suffering from “Sister Outsider" ...
In other words according to Ms Lorde….when one “lives through pain, without recognizing it”, we self-consciously, rob ourselves of the power that can come from using that pain. That pain she states is the power to fuel some movement beyond the ache. She even goes further by saying that one can condemn oneself “to reliving that pain over and over and over whenever something close triggers it. And that is suffering, a seemingly inescapable cycle”. I’d have to say I agree with Ms Lorde in her distinction of pain and suffering. I haven’t seen it articulated quite like this before, am sure a lot more can be said on the subject however the sistah was on point, definitely something to ponder. Interesting Observation-Rescued Gum ‘waste not, want not’I was sitting in the train with my daughter conversing about all manner of things when a couple who appeared to be their late 40's early 50's entered and lovingly squeezed their selves into the seats directly opposite my daughter and I. The man raised his arm and put it behind the woman’s head and she scooted closer to him as they giggled affectionately. I smiled to myself as I watched the intimate by play. As the train sped off down the tracks the couple engaged in whispered conversations while my daughter I silently acknowledged the couple to each other with our eyes we and continued with our eclectic dialogue glancing periodically when there were some vocal outburst or laughter. Two stops into the train ride the woman started digging around in her purse. After a few seconds she pulled out some gum. She unwrapped one and promptly offered it to the gentleman however in the process of taking the gum the train jerked and the gum slipped and fell on the train floor. What happened next shocked me as the man quickly bent and retrieved the gum from the ground and unceremoniously plopped it into his mouth chewing happily without missing a beat in their conversation. The woman did not seem surprised or put off by the action and they exchanged long kisses. My daughter and I shocked looked at each trying discretely to look unaffected by gum action as we communicated with our eyes and facial expressions learnt from years of living with each other. Needless to say the consensus was “eewwww”, 'nasty son-of-a-bi-arch' as we both erupted into a fit of uncensored laughter. We were so animated we couldn’t helpe but draw the attention of other travelers on the train including the couple however I don't think they suspected we were laughing at them since we were laughing and talking before. My daughter and I could no longer look at each other, (our conversation ended abruptly overshadowed by the event) because we would just start laughing all over again. I kept thinking....’Disgusting’ damn, I mean, geez couldn't he have leave that piece of gum on the ground after all they had a full pack. I had to distract myself as it was on the tip of my tongue to say something, I had to remind myself over and over to be mindful and mind my own business, after all it’s not my mouth the dirty gum went in. So why should I worry or be concerned? As a solution I simply put my earphones in my ear as did my daughter, she rested her head on my shoulder and closed her eyes while I relaxed and applied my granny’s saying to the action I witnessed, “Waste not want not”. Yuck! Email from My Cousin - "If A Man Wants You"Blessings all, am fixing to share an email here with you that i received from my cousin. Every once in a while he sends me these emails that make me go hmmmmmmmm......perhaps you've seen this already but i think its one of those things that warrants a second, third or even fourth mention as it contains some things that make you think, (at least it should). Ladies take note, fellas (Men) please weigh in and please feel free to add anything you thing you feel needs to be said.
Grin & bear it only goes so far – 45 min ride in 2.5 hrs 'Push! Push!" Move Your As..Using public transit in Toronto is fast becoming a swear word. Everyday there is a problem, from buses contrary to scheduling, to what seem like daily streetcar breakdowns to train track signaling problems, trains going out of service at peak hours to medical emergencies that result in the inevitable delays, delays, and more delays with the same result; you are late for work or whatever appointment you are scheduled for. I have given up telling my boss about the train and bus delays, shuts downs and the like because even to my ear it sounds tired and trite. You leave early you are late, you leave on time you are late, you leave late well hell, it’s a crap shoot. There is no compensation to the general public whose usage by the way pays the workers, we just got to suck it up and deal. It's like my mother use to say when i was little and didn't want to eat, "you don't like it, then lay down beside it". On April first there may be a possible TTC (Toronto Transit Commission) strike to which 1.5 million people will have to figure out how to get to work. In short TTC has travelers by the (pardon the pun) proverbial balls. It is almost guaranteed that a fare hike will follow. Currently cash fare for adults is $2.75, $11.50 for 5 tickets if you manage to get your tickets or tokens in advance or if you like me and purchase metropass it’s $109.00 per month but that’s only if you travel within the GTA, go any further (mississauga etc.)and that’s another fare. At a purchase whopping bite of $327 per month for metropasses out of my pay, I guess i can easily add another $270 to that and rent a bachelor apartment close to my job. In case you missed it, that was sarcasm. It’s just incredulous and ingenious how fares keep rising and there is no improvement in the service in fact the transit system is worst than ever. Thursday March 13th is a prime example of the deplorable service. I was caught in what I dub the transit hell hole. That is when there is medical emergency of some sort, for which we were politely dumped out on Woodbine station with no disclosure so we were stuck in endless wonderment, hanging like meat in a cooler waiting for some sort of announcement about what’s going on, and what our next move should be. We didn’t know if the subway was still running, if alternative buses were running, nothing. A slue of trains pass, a few dumping off people as the crowd grew larger. Then came the gabbled announcement “we…….sorry……medical emergency “static” …..rrrr…. “static” bbbb………rrrr……pppp….."static" shuttlebus. That was the key word “Shuttle bus”. This is after more than 20 minutes and four trains pass by with no pick, half the people didn’t understand the announcement and the other half was asking the clueless ones “what did he say?” Me, I just yelled “Shuttle bus people, the trains are out of services” and it was off to the races. Upstairs everyone waited patiently, aggregately, impatiently for the shuttle buses. Well we assumed it was going to be buses. They sent one, one people and this is after almost 30 minute. I thought I would get on but the pushing and shoving proved too much and I opt for my life preservation. At this point it is ass biting cold, I swear winter is a man, because I could feel that cold hand of winter touching me in places I didn’t know I have and forgot I had. My fingers were frozen and beginning to hurt. To distract myself I took out my ppc (pocket pc) and crank up my eclectic genre of music, some calypso, India Irie, Aerosmith, Fefe Dobson, Evanescence, Luther Vandross, Mary Mary, Justin Timberlake, Pink, Musique, playing in random order just enough to occupy my mind so I don’t get pulled into the madness of the inefficiency of TTC while i waited somewhat patiently for the other shuttle bus. By now 30 minutes has passed and we are still waiting. People are getting anxious and bold. Three people decided to stand in front of me, I was not having it. Most days I will let inconsideration flow off me like water on down a ducks back but not today. My unspeakables were numb, my toes were frozen, my cheeks hurt and they butting in front of me were just stretching my last nerve past the point of enough. So very politely I stated “if you are standing there when the bus arrives please note I will walk over you since you are so considerate to boldly stand here in front of me, who by the way, have been standing here for almost 45 minutes”. Needless to say they moved. A woman standing next to me just started laughing. At this point I am having a private conversation with God (as Mary, Mary sings shackles) to please let the bus come now when a TTC employee arrived just as a shuttle bus turned in and the man proceeded to direct the bus away from where we all stood for hours, well all hell broke loose and people started pushing and running to the bus. The man reasoned that more buses were coming but after freezing for what felt like hours no one paid him any attention. The race was on. People pushed their way onto the bus, I am there in the thick of things and some fools decided they were going to butt me out of the way, yeah right!. Little did they know I was born in the Caribbean, we know about pushing, after all if you ever been to carnival you would know exactly what I mean. I just brace myself and push, they didn’t stand a chance. Then I heard it, someone was screaming. A few rows in front of me these two old ladies, screaming but it was the look on one, she was in shear agony. One woman on the side shouted “the lady, the lady” the poor old woman could only scream, I guess the pain got so bad she starting using some four letter words but no one would stop pushing long enough for her to move. I took a deep breath and just started pushing my way towards her; once I got there I pulled her out. The crowd pushing momentum moved so fast that she did not have a chance to step up onto the bus so she was caught between the crowd and the back step of the bus stair, her feet were jammed to the side of the stairs. I had to pull her out and loudly speak over the crowd “step up, step up” while she struggled to comply. I gave another good push and pull her out, cup her elbow and partially lift her so she could get on the bus. I managed to get on the bus when a man started complaining, “all yuh squeezing me”, I just told him, “oh shut up, get squeeze and leave or get out and freeze because all of us getting squeezed.” We were on our way, i simply crank up my music and tuned out the commotion going on the bus, i needed to preserve my peace of mind. Once we reached the designated subway “Broadview” I waited to see if the old woman was alright, she was, she thanked me and I was on my way. Not wanting to deal with the subway again that morning I opted to use the streetcar to take me the rest of the way to work. After transferring from one streetcar to another I finally reached to work at 12:30 pm. I was exhausted. A few minutes later one of my Language Interpreter walked into my office and announced that she had to walk to my office because the streetcars from the subway nearest my work was not working. All I could say was ‘thank God l listened to my instincts and took the other route because I would have been caught up in yet another nightmare transit hooray or should I say “daymare”. All that drama is fast becoming the standard and there is no compensation. Now we have to look forward to an impending strike and possible fare hikes…..nice eh! LivingLiving life exactly as one truly imagines is easier said than done because in the imagination there are no obstacles, the same cannot be said for life. D.S.B Rhapsody©2008 Look InIt is easy to criticize others, to list their faults. however, before casting aspersions, first take a look at self before condemning anyone else.
D.S.B Rhapsody © 2008
"Contemplating Failure"
Failure is not failure but directional guidelines to life on what does not work (is not working) and the opportunity change, to try something new. IN OTHER WORDS... It's life lessons i.e.: Failures are the footsteps to success if you are open to learning the lessons of the past MINDFULNESS THOUGHT It is not about how much times you fall down it is about your ability to continually rise up despite all the falls. SO....… If you have become stagnant, paralyzed and trapped in the midst of past failures and burdened by the disappointment that you have essentially inhibited yourself from trying and experiencing new things. You need to Stop!, go back and re-examine objectively the experience (be a spectator if you will), get the lesson, pick yourself up and move forward into new opportunities and experiences armed with the knowledge of lessons learnt.
D.S.B Rhapsody © 2008 The Lie 'Reflecting on an old saying'“Stick and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me” This is one of the most well intentioned lie perpetrated against children/youths by their parents, relatives and guardians in the aim of motivating them to rise above negative name calling/verbal bashing. But let’s face it, it’s a lie, it’s just simply... a big old stinking lie. I guess in defense to the parents, grandparents, guardians and mentors they were doing the best they knew how with situations perhaps they did not have the answer to or were inadequately equipped to deal with. None the less well intentioned or not, it was and is still a lie. How many of you carry the wounds of the past delivered in words like; “you are stupid”, “you worthless piece of shit”, “stupid bitch”, “stinking whore”, “you’re nothing”, "you will be nothing" etc..words of the past that unfortunately carries through to adulthood and may still resonates today with some of you and is as prevalent in the world today like the dreaded “N” word and all the other demoralizing debasing words used to demonize the “Other”/ “People of Color”, homosexuals etc. Who is going to tell me that those nasty insidious words including that of racism and all the other isms never hurt? Who is going to say that some did not in fact have the consequence of broken bones or worst? The fact is words wielded destructively can deconstruct and negatively reconstruct the human psyche with dire consequences. Carelessly delivered with malice intent words become weapons that have the power to start wars, end marriages, convince nations of an imagined inferiority and divide peoples among their selves. Words if not considered before utterance can devour a person, people, nation. No one likes to be slighted, disregarded, or disrespected, so the next time you open your mouth to say something demeaning try and think of the consequences and intent of your words. MINDFULNESS THOUGHT It would be wise to remember that..."If you dish it out, you must be prepared to take it" because you may get a surprise retaliation to your verbal castration.
D.S.B.Rhapsody©2008 Pass me dee thing deh (the “thing” can mean anything; communication is an art)Pass me dee thing deh What thing? Dee thing nah, over deh on dee shelf You mean the funnel? Yeah dah thing, dee funnel You know wah ah mean. Hmmm, mmm, right, sure I do Pass me dah thing right deh What thing? Dat watumah call it The what you may who? Dee big round thing right deh sitting on dee table Oh! You mean the plastic bottle? Yeah, ain’t dat wah ah say? Ahhhh……sure You know wah ah mean Hmmmm………………… Pass me dah thing deh on your left What thing would that be? Dee lil blue thing sitting in the thingamagiggie over deh You mean the blue bottle cap sitting in the dish drainer to cover the bottle rum punch you just made? Yeah ain’t dat wah ah say? How come yuh repeating everything ah say so.. Just clarifying Hmmm….things would go a lot faster if yuh just gimmeh wah ah ask for instead of parroting meh Ok… Now pass meh dah thing over deh so ah could taste dis thing You mean you would like a glass so you can pour some rum punch in to taste? Isn’t dat wat ah just say, yuh sure yuh feeling alright, cause yuh got ah whole lot ah questions I am feeling fine grandma, just making sure Making sure ah wat baby? That we understand each other Hmmmm….well dah goes without saying sugar Now come here and gimme some love, yuh understand dat right? Yeah grandma, ah gotcha
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